Zorba the Hutt (zorbathut) wrote,
Zorba the Hutt

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I'm certain everyone thinks of honesty as "don't lie", at least primarily. I mean, that's what it is. Not lying.

But I'm wondering how far people think this goes. Lying by omission, for example - if someone asks you something and you don't tell the *entire* truth, but you don't really tell any *untruths*. What about white lies? Truths that might - or probably - have no beneficial effect. Truths that could very well hurt, and never knowing about it would never hurt the person at all. What about volunteering? If they don't ask you something you know would probably be important to them, do you have to volunteer the information in the interests on honesty?

What about all of them combined? Something someone will never find out about, that might hurt them if they knew, that they half *do* know but think that's all there is. Someone you deeply care about and don't want to hurt.

of course, you could always post an LJ entry about it and hope they ask, to get rid of the whole conundrum altogether. But then it might not be the right timing - what if you know that you can make it not-hurt-as-much if the timing's right, and if they came straight out and asked, it might hurt them more? Or it might turn out very very badly?

sigh. lousy honesty.

(please don't ask. And if you think you know what it might be, please don't say anything. I'll post later on if you can ask, but . . . if you asked and you were that person, I'd have to tell you. So if you're that person, please don't ask, because I need to keep this to myself right now. Only I can't say who that person is, and you have no way of knowing if it's you or not, so just don't ask. Please.)

I would like to hear anybody's opinions on matters of this sort tho :/ (no, no more details, that's all you've got. It's a general case. I'll specific-ize it myself.)
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